Kashmir - Let's not get Biased !!

I am fed up of reading about Kashmir issue every now and then. I have read a number of articles on the same. Some of them were justifying the killing of Burhan Wani and ridiculing the gather of Kashmiri people for his funeral. On the other hand, some of them were supporting the Kashmiri protesters and thrashing the killing of protesters on the hand of security personnel. In addition, there were few articles giving a balanced view towards the whole incident explaining the mindset of both the parties. Alonwith all these I found articles explaining the history of Kashmir in their own words; again some of them supporting the protests and others spilling the bitterness towards the protesters.

After reading numerous of such articles on internet, I can assure, here, I won't be writing anything like that. Why so? Because I am not interested in learning about the past. I believe whatever the past was, it has past. I don't believe in living in the past, however, I believe in present and want to focus on future. That's exactly what I am going to write over here.

Honestly, being an Indian, I support India and its security forces. I support them wholeheartedly and I do back them on whatever they're doing for this country but I am not able to overlook the sufferings of Kashmiri protesters. All those 40+ people were human beings who died leaving their families to grieve behind them. Thousands of other human beings are injured, a lot of them are losing their eyesight. And I wonder what will happen to them when all these protests will end. Maybe the government provide them with monetary compensations but will that ever be sufficient? Whatever they'll lose now, will they ever be able to gain it back through any sort of compensation? The answer is NO. Thus I wonder what these people are actually thinking while spoiling their lives for stupid reasons. Don't they know that we live only once and we have numerous things to do in this small amount of time.

I can debate on it for long hours but that's not the reason I am writing this blog. I just had one question in my mind for everyone out there and I want to ask that to everyone who is commenting on the issue, giving their valuable suggestions, advices and comments. Actually, I am incapable of understanding their views on this sensitive issue. I believe noone can comment on something unless they have actually faced the same situation. Just by listening or viewing they can't comment and if they're commenting then why they're getting biased. I think I need to elaborate myself in order to get a proper answer.

First of all, (I Don't believe it but) suppose whatever the Kashmiri people are telling us about the harsh realities of Indian Army is true. These harsh realities include several incidents where Indian Army is beating innocent Kashmiri people and youths, raping women, killing innocent lives, so on. Let us agree to this that all these things are happening in Kashmir in a full force. These incidents also include the incident that served as a catalyst for the Burhan Wani and he became a militant. What happened afterwards is Burhan Wani started killing security personals. I agree that Burhan was a youth but do you know the people he killed. Were those people really aged? Didn't they left their families behind themselves for grieving? If your heart pains for Burhan, it should pain for others too. Why? Let me tell you that too. You say Burhan has suffered in the hands of security forces and thus you justify him. Then you should be able to justify the security personnels too because they are also suffering. A number of security persons have lost their lives due to acts done by these militants. A lot of them were the sole bread earners, a lot of them had left their children and families to suffer. The security persons fight without even thinking about themselves or their families and if badly hurt, they lose their jobs too. So it's quite justifiable.

There is also a section of people who do not justify the suffering of Kashmiri people who are violating laws and thus, get injured. For all such people I want to say that you should also be crying for the sufferings of Indian security forces. In short, you should be crying for both the parties or not crying at all. Why are you biasing for just one party? If you feel pain for Indian Army, you should feel pain for Kashmiris too and vice versa. However, I do agree that Kashmiris are actually violating laws and that's why they are getting hurt, but again there is something that is bothering me. Does Indian Government think that hurting Kashmiris badly will solve the problem? I don't think so, because they already have a lot of hatred for the country and by hurting them so badly, that hatred will only be multiplying. All this just seem like a deadlock situation where there is circle of hurting each other. Kashmiris will hurt security forces by pelting stones and then security forces will hurt them through pellet guns.

At last, I am just worried where are we heading to? What's the solution? The situation is worsening only. Even if after few days the situation will seem normal but families of all those who got hurt during these days will only be becoming other Burhans. And whenever a time will come for another protest, they will do it again and that too with much more hatred. I genuinely want to request everyone to stop commenting or biasing or encouraging one of the party. Instead, please put your brains into it and try to learn the main cause and try to resolve it. This is a humble request to everyone including Indian Government, Kashmiri protesters, Kashmiri separatist leaders, all citizens and journalists. Please try to resolve the issue once and for all and clear this deadlock. On my part, I am trying to learn as much as I can and hoping the future will be better than the present for J&K. Please help or at least pray for the same.

RIP Asgar

What a horrible day it was; the day started with a horrible news about the demise of one of my dearest friend Asgar. I woke up early in the morning only to read this heartbreaking news that shook me up completely. It was a screenshot of fb post; I couldn't believe my eyes what I have read. I logged in to fb, read the posts and comments on his timeline. Still I couldn't believe my eyes, I was not able to understand anything. So I messaged everyone I could to read all that I have just read. I wanted someone to tell me that I'm stupid; that none of this is true; that its mere a horrible joke.

Soon the chaos started; everyone was talking about it but no one wanted to believe this. Everyone was asking others to read it again, to confirm the news. Everyone was hoping it to be a joke and waiting in anticipation for someone to tell them that everything's fine; he is fine. No one was able to believe their eyes. Everyone was shocked. Everyone was hoping for him to come online and say stop all this nonsense, I'm here.

I was already crying but hoping for someone to prove me wrong. Suddenly then the news for confirmation arrived, a confirmation no one was ready to accept, a confirmation that everyone wanted to deny but no one can; it was on the news. It was true, we had lost our humble friend. It was so painful to read about this, to see his smiling face in the news. He was really no more with us. He drowned in the Lidder river. It was a sudden, on-the-spot death. We all were mourning by then.

I still couldn't believe my eyes. I wanted all this to be a horrible dream. The thought of not being able to see his face again drenched me into immense pain. He was such a nice person. He was a helping hand for everyone. He was noble, kind and gentle man and a very good friend. He was indeed an awesome friend and I am so lucky that I got chance to be friends with him.

Although we didn't share the same mindset, he never let that come in between our friendship. However I- I am unkind and a horrible friend. Yes I want to confess this, I haven't been good to him always. It's been a long time since I had a conversation with him. I didn't even had his new number. The reason being his thoughts were anti- for mine. I avoided him because he had a different mindset and a different viewpoint than me. I should be ashamed now, he was the one who never let these things come in between us and I chose my viewpoint over his pure friendship. I am sorry Asgar, I am very sorry. And I know I can't do anything about it now but I was feeling so small in front of you and I wanted to apologize to you. I am really sorry and I am saying this from the bottom of my heart. You were a true friend and no one can fill the void that has been created by your demise.

Everyone has mourned him in their own way and this was my way. RIP Asgar. You will be missed forever. Who's gonna call me Sonu now :'(

Someone I used to know...

A fun-loving guy in my office, my junior in fact - quite bubbly, always finding shortcuts, saying "kya fark padta h mam kaam to ho gya na". These are one of lovely memories I have of my office. My office; it brings a lot of memories however I want to focus on the particular ones related to the one I'm talking about.

Dishant - what should I say about him. He is a jolly person but a typical Delhiite, anyone can tell that. I still remember I met him for the first time on his first day of our office. I gave him a little training regarding the work he would be assigned to. And I must say he had so much to ask. I wonder either I am not able to explain everything completely or it's just his habit. But whatever it was, at least I knew how much he understood so I guess that's a good thing; right?

As the time passed by, I found out he was starting his career and thus, giving his cent percent. He lived quite far from the office and it used to take near 2 hrs for him to reach home. Still, he used to sit late in the office to share the workload. Because of his talkative nature, we soon became good friends and I always used to teach him that office is not everything. You should do work but don't give up your everything for it. And I used to always quote that common saying "The Company was working before you and it will work even after you. So don't stop living your life for it." I always used to explain him how he should find a job nearby his place and dedicate himself over there. But he never listened.

And then came a shock, he was called in to inform that he was not needed by the Company anymore. In spite of all his efforts and dedications, he was asked to resign from his position. I was upset, very upset. He was a quick-learner everyone can tell that. He had a laid-back attitude but still he used to finish all the tasks assigned to him on time. He used to share the workload equally, no matter how much he got suffered because of this. His dedication din't paid off, that was hurting me a lot. I tried to sort out the situation but I messed it up even more. And then it was final, he had to leave anyway after serving a notice period of one month.

His one month notice period was the time when we actually became good friends. I came to know a lot about his life, the seriousness in him hidden behind his jolly nature. He expressed all his good and bad time experiences. At that time, I had a cold war with one of my friends and he always used to encourage me to amend my relationships giving me lectures on friendship. He was the only one forcing me again and again to take proper breaks during office hours. He kinda used to drag me to the cafeteria with him.

I knew I'm gonna miss him and I actually did. It was nice to work with him. It was pleasure to be his mentor even for few days. He says I taught him a lot but I don't know, I think he is the one who taught me. He taught me to be funny even under enormous pressure. He taught me to be dedicated at any cost; to do anything for the things I want to achieve in my life. I know we're on parted ways but I also know that we'll be in touch forever. God Bless him and impart him the success he deserves.

I have so many things and so many memories to share but that will convert this blog into a mini book. It's better to stop myself here and conclude this Blog. At last I just want to thank him, Thanks a lot. Thank you for being so much patient and dedicated which resulted into the completion of this blog. It would have not been possible without you. Thank you ;)