Life is really amazing, it let you go through a number of
phases – some of them are good while some are bad. However each phase teaches
you something. Really, Life is the biggest Teacher of all…..
When I talk about phases, one name surrounds my mind. She is
going through a bad phase right now. I conversed with her in the morning, she asked
a question to me and I really don’t have any answer for her. She asked me “Why
people think that I am something which they can play with or throw away,
whenever they want?” I usually don’t believe in such sayings, but what she is
going through, I was speechless to answer it.
She had a friend. Both of them used to work in the same
company. She got friendly with him and used to take coffee breaks with him
only. They used to interact very well regarding their office work as well as
personal life. And soon became very good friends. They started meeting even
outside the office. They keep meeting even after she shifted her office.
Suddenly something happened, she still don’t know, he
stopped replying to her messages. They had a little fight earlier, so she thought
that these are the after-effects as she had abused him a lot to overcome her
sadness. Later on, she felt regretted and apologized to him. At that time, he
said it’s alright but stopped talking to her. However, when she recalled
everything, she remembered that he started ignoring her even before that fight
and abusing part. This meant that something else had happened which she din’t
knew. And it seemed that their friendship ended up when she actually started
liking him. She used to miss him a lot.
But the amazing fact is – as soon as she held herself and
let herself believe that they were not meant to be friends and he was not worth
her liking; he contacted her again. He messaged her, kinda apologizing for
previous ignorance and maybe hoping for getting back like earlier again. But
how can she trust someone again. He is just reminding her about all the pain he
gave her. How can she believe him again? What if he’ll do the same again…?
These questions are very obvious for her. She can’t trust
him again. After all, all this is happening again in her life. She had faced
the same situation previously. During our college time, she had a friend with
whom she used to spend all of her time. She used to share everything with him.
He was her best friend. Actually, both of them used to be so close to each other
that everyone believed they had an affair. He used to say that we’ll be
together forever; no one can separate us.
When our college was about to end, he started ignoring her.
He avoided her phone calls and never replied to her messages. She cried a lot;
she wept a lot but he was gone. She was heartbroken. She just kept crying in
her room; it was so difficult for us to let her live again. It took her an year
to overcome his absence. And when she did that, he came in front of her
apologizing for the past year. She needed him so badly that she forgave him
with a new beginning in her mind.
They started talking and meeting again. She started trusting
him and depending on him again. Even we were so happy to see them together
again. But to everyone’s surprise, he again started avoiding her and started
keeping himself away from her. Their meetings reduced, their phone chats got
reduced. He started building a bridge in between them. They are friends now,
but there is a lot of difference. They are no more best friends, not even good
friends. It’s like they are just acquaintances.
After experiencing all this, how can she give a chance to
someone else to play with her emotions again?? I don’t think she can, and in
fact she should not. She should learn from her past. It will be painful for her
to ignore her apologizing friend but it will be even more painful, if he would
do that again. I think she should not take this risk and move forward.
I just hope and pray to God to end her pain and let her be
happy. I hope her life will show its best in future. May God Bless Her…!!